To be honest, I’m still trying to understand the concept of forgiveness. I tell myself I’ve forgiven someone or myself, and suddenly something triggers the memories and I begin to feel the way I felt from the beginning.
I just know that it doesn’t hurt as much as it did before after a very very long time of crying, regrets and beating myself up mentally😅😅
I now know forgiveness is a process, I would grieve, moan and lash out for as long as it takes. No one should tell me it happened a long time ago so forget about it and no one should apologise and expect instant forgiveness from me.
I know that I need to forgive from a religious perspective and I will eventually because I believe no one is worth damning my soul over.
As for boundaries, I am of the belief that there are just some situations and people that you cannot completely reconcile with. It's a "I forgive you for my soul sake but I don't want to ever interact with you situation".
To be honest, I’m still trying to understand the concept of forgiveness. I tell myself I’ve forgiven someone or myself, and suddenly something triggers the memories and I begin to feel the way I felt from the beginning.
I just know that it doesn’t hurt as much as it did before after a very very long time of crying, regrets and beating myself up mentally😅😅
I now know forgiveness is a process, I would grieve, moan and lash out for as long as it takes. No one should tell me it happened a long time ago so forget about it and no one should apologise and expect instant forgiveness from me.
I know that I need to forgive from a religious perspective and I will eventually because I believe no one is worth damning my soul over.
As for boundaries, I am of the belief that there are just some situations and people that you cannot completely reconcile with. It's a "I forgive you for my soul sake but I don't want to ever interact with you situation".